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This Is How We Do It
by Kevin Hart · 3 min read
- Type: Nonfiction
- Format: Practical guide
- Topic: Personal growth
- Topic: Relationships
About this book
Kevin Hart presents self-improvement as a matter of repeated choices. Through fifteen tools drawn from his experience, he explores setting aims, handling setbacks, keeping promises, and learning from other people. The book offers direct advice about building mental strength while making room for humility, both during difficult periods and after success arrives.
Who it's for: For readers who enjoy direct personal advice about work, relationships, and handling setbacks.
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Accept the facts before choosing the move
In This Is How We Do It, Kevin Hart argues that people handle problems better when they first admit what is true. Blame, denial, and complaining can rush in so fast that they cover up the next useful step. His idea of “what-is-ness” is a pause to face the real situation as it is, and then decide what the situation calls for from there.
Why it matters
This turns calm into a working skill, not a vague mood.
An example
A daughter hates school, but school still exists; acceptance can help her see friends and other benefits there.
Keep in mind
The summary says this is not a reason to stay in unsafe or abusive conditions.
Practice gives confidence something to stand on
In This Is How We Do It, Kevin Hart treats consistency as evidence you can look at. Studying, training, rehearsing, and keeping a routine create a record you can judge. Repetition lets you adjust your method and trust that you actually did the work. Without repetition, a wish is hard to measure and easy to drop. The book links this to the long, unglamorous labor that can sit behind later success.
Why it matters
Growth becomes less dependent on feeling inspired on a given day.
An example
Hart links years of poorly paid comedy travel to the hidden labor behind later success.
Keep in mind
The source supports practice as important, but it does not claim effort always wins.
Responsibility needs warmth beside it
In This Is How We Do It, Kevin Hart presents toughness as more than pushing harder. He urges readers to accept the results of their choices, admit mistakes, and avoid promises they cannot keep. Alongside that, he values friendliness, gratitude, generosity, and steady care. In this framing, strength should make someone more dependable rather than more harsh. The book uses a personal admission of cheating to show how owning harm can begin repair.
Why it matters
The book links personal growth to trust inside families, teams, and friendships.
An example
The narrator uses his own admission of cheating to show how owning harm can start repair.
Keep in mind
The summary supports this as a relational habit, not a complete guide to every conflict.
Ambition works best when it stays humble
In This Is How We Do It, Kevin Hart praises growth while warning about what success can do to a person. Money, praise, and status can tempt someone to act superior or demand attention. He argues for learning from others, staying curious, and keeping ordinary relationships in view so ambition stays healthy. The book uses his choice to take on The Upside—work that brought new direction and criticism—as a reminder that growth can include entering unfamiliar ground.
Why it matters
This protects achievement from damaging the person who achieved it and the people nearby.
An example
Choosing The Upside placed Hart in less familiar work, with new direction and criticism.
Keep in mind
The source gives personal examples, not broad evidence about every path to success.
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