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1987168 pages3-min Big ideas4.6 (75)
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What is A Child Called 'It' about?

This book chronicles the unforgettable account of one of the most severe child abuse cases in California history. It is the story of Dave Pelzer, who was brutally beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable, alcoholic mother: a mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games--games that left him nearly dead. He had to learn how to play his mother's games in order to survive because she no longer considered him a son, but a slave; and no longer a boy, but an "it." Dave's bed was an old army cot in the basement, and his clothes were torn and raunchy. When his mother allowed him the luxury of food, it was nothing more than spoiled scraps that even the dogs refused to eat. The outside world knew nothing of his living nightmare. He had nothing or no one to turn to, but his dreams kept him alive--dreams of someone taking care of him, loving him and calling him their son.

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The Reality of Severe Child Abuse

Pelzer’s memoir exposes the extent and brutality of child abuse that can occur behind closed doors, even in seemingly ordinary families. The detailed descriptions of physical and emotional torment serve to shatter illusions about the rarity or visibility of such suffering. By sharing his experiences, Pelzer forces readers to confront the uncomfortable truth that abuse can be hidden in plain sight, and that victims may have no one to turn to for help.

The Psychology of Survival

A central theme is Pelzer’s remarkable psychological resilience. Despite relentless cruelty, he develops coping mechanisms—mental games, hope, and a fierce will to live—that allow him to endure. The book explores how a child’s mind can adapt to trauma, finding ways to maintain a sense of self-worth and hope even in the bleakest circumstances.

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  1. 1The Reality of Severe Child Abuse
  2. 2The Psychology of Survival
  3. 3Isolation and the Failure of Systems
  4. 4The Power and Limits of Hope
  5. 5The Lasting Impact of Trauma

Popular quotes from A Child Called 'It'

Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.
Inside, my soul became so cold I hated everything.
I was a child, but not treated like one.

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This book chronicles the unforgettable account of one of the most severe child abuse cases in California history. It is the story of Dave Pelzer, who was brutally beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable, alcoholic mother: a mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games--games that left him nearly dead. He had to learn how to play his mother's games in order to survive because she no longe